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The Evolutionary Shift – The fear of losing our identity

“It is not the strongest or the most intelligent who will survive but those who can best manage change.”
–  Leon C. Megginson

It’s truly amazing thing to see how life – the world – has been redefined over the years. As we not only observe but also witness and experience its changes, we explore the endless opportunities of where life can take us and just where we as a race fits into the evolutionary curve. When you take time to reflect, you will be hit with an obvious but still surprising realization which is the fact that the world has been in a primitive state longer than it has been in this advanced age – as far as we know of. This in itself shifts our perspective and understanding on what life is, what can life can become what are the boundaries of evolution.

The world and life itself, can no longer be simply defined by the present, for the rate that progression has accelerated has proven that the future is only as far as the now. What this means is that at present we can no longer measure progress, set goals or anticipate developments in decades, for evolutionary breakthroughs are being realized within a lustrum – a 5 year span. It’s a remarkable but yet confrontational era, one where we must embrace the reality of how time itself has transitioned into a new dynamic, allowing us to exist in the present but just as much live in the future as everything unfolds so instantaneously.

I’d like to give you a little exercise: take a minute, close your eyes and imagine life 50 years ago. (1 min pause) Now, simply try to compare then to now and imagine all that happened within that period, how much we’ve achieved since then, and ask yourself: does it feel like 50 years? To think that 50 years ago is a reality so close but yet so far, simply because of how much our development has impacted the relativity of time itself through evolution. This is an indication that time is truly relative, for to people 50 years ago, 50 years ahead may have not seemed so far because they couldn’t imagine the world transforming at such a scale. But to people 50 years ahead [in the now], 50 years ago seems forever because you are not only traveling back in time but you’re also traveling back, away towards a less advanced reality. Now, don’t stop imagining just yet. I want you to think a bit more on life back then. Think on how people lived their lives on a day-to-day basis, think about their feelings and reactions to being introduced to ideas they had no understanding of nor did their minds ever dared to explore. Imagine living in a time where people dared not to share ideas, people dared not to think beyond, people dared not to dream. Back then, people dared not to, and today we’re living the dreams of the silent. Our reality is the fantasy of a few loud people but a whole lot of silent, for example: we now drive cars that run on a battery source – cars that no longer need gas, and we walk around with a device so small that it fits in our pockets but yet so strong it connects us to all the information and people in the world. Today, this is what normal means to us because this is what we know, but imagine being born into a time when there was no indication or inspiration to even imagine such things. Taking time to reflect should allow you perspective on how impressive it is to see just how far we’ve come. And it’s not that we were less intelligent than we are now, it’s simply that our imagination lacked the freedom to imagine. During that era, the thought of creating such tools, systems, technologies, and inventions were as limited as the rate that technology itself was progressing but also the space to dream loudly. People 50 years ago could never imagine what seemed unimaginable, and even if they could they probably thought that breakthroughs on such a magnitude would only be possible in decades. lifetimes and some even thought never.

50+ years ago the world was driven by limited imagination, one that reflected the world’s limited technological capabilities. Because of that, growth was slower and progress was experienced less excitable, as most people eliminated the possibility that the development would be in their lifetimes which impacted motivation. But obviously, since then things have changed, in a rather dramatic way (one can argue positive or negative). On April 30th, 1993, life took an exaggerated leap when the World Wide Web was introduced to the public and everyone was now able to have access to an open and universal global knowledge resource. This shift has impacted humans in so many ways, for as I earlier mentioned, “our imagination was/ is simply a reflection of the world’s technological limitations and advancements”. The Internet & the World Wide Web have become the gateway to limitless possibilities in our lives, and in turn, the gateway to awakening our limitless imagination as humans. We are no longer chained to what the eyes can see, the limitations set by our households, communities or social groups. We are now free to explore thoughts that doesn’t make sense today but has a possibility of making sense tomorrow. For that, we are now free to dream with our eyes wide open, we we are free to let our once tamed minds run as wild as it can possibly be.

There’s a timeless saying that resonates on this topic very much, and that is: “with great power comes great responsibility”, and this is because with great power there can be great consequences. We’ve seen just how much the lack of power [technological advancements] has an impact on human life and its development. But just as a lack of power has consequences, having the power also has an impact. As technology continues to develop, development on a whole becomes more fluid, almost happening instantaneously. Just look at how easy and fast we can find a solution for every problem that occurs, we can create new ways to feed our pleasures. This puts us in a tricky loop where we can no longer sit idle in boredom, when we experience stagnation to any extent, we begin to explore our boundaries, and as a result, we are capable of hacking our learning curve, influencing a more intelligent generation of humans. With great power, we must ask ourselves: at what cost? What are the consequences of having this much power? What are the consequences of our actions? Are we compromising for the benefit of our future or some? But of all the question, the trickiest one remains: are we as humans accelerating our own development at the same rate that we are developing technology? Are we able to understand, process and sustain the limitless factors that we’re exposing ourselves to? For as advanced as technology has become, as reliant as we can be on these advancements, we too need to be sure that we are developing to the point that we can consume more, understand more, process more and be more.

The reality is, we’re at an evolutionary curve in life where we’ve taken comfort in the world evolving around us, even if that means without us. We praise evolution, and take pride in its growing prowess as its a reflection and result of our own influence, no longer having the same ambition for ourselves. As humans, we now feel accomplished setting goals that are achieved once we can develop something successfully, even with us being excluded. This is highly evident in our social systems around the world. Many people see the tools that we use as an extension of who we are, a supporting element in our lives to make tasks “easier”. But what we are missing is the direct impact that it has on us, our kids, our community and our future. Technology is nothing but a tool, but a tool can be used for any and everything. We are so hyper-focused on developing these tools that we forget that we need to just as rapidly ensure that the people who use them are capable of using them effectively and being able to minimize the negative consequences of them. More and more we see the effects of adapting our education curriculum to the current trends. People no longer strive to develop their processing skills nor their thinking skills because their reliance on these tools. One consequence is the fact that we have fewer people challenging themselves, fewer people pushing their boundaries, and fewer people being able to use their brains to process, analyze and make decisions based on their own thoughts. Where we once focused on physical, cognitive, social, emotional and moral development, we now solely focus on technological development. And while we may see technology as a positive supporting tool in our lives, we must strive to maintain our own development before we lose our independent identity, becoming nothing without these tools.

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Trapped in Logic

There are many theories on what life is, what evolution is, and how these aspects apply to us and influences our capacity to learn and grow. All these theories, regardless of perspective, are governed by a concept that we refer to as logic. Every thought, every idea, every decision, and every action, all our own but yet far from our own.

This piece is meant to be an illogical perspective that triggers discomfort which I hope will force you to embrace a direction that logic prevents you from thinking in. I believe that our quest for deeper understanding of life, realization of our evolution, and awareness of our possibilities are closer than we think. For how can we acknowledge the limitless capabilities of our minds but yet limit it? Let’s take this walk together through our minds as I help to open up a door that could unfold the parts that we keep from ourselves.

Now, what if I told you that 1+1=3? Would you think that I’m “crazy” because I live by a different logic than we’ve been taught? Chances are, an overwhelming majority would label me that way. And it’s not because I am but because that I think differently; I think by a standard that is not recognized by our societies. The thing is, everything we do, the way we think, and the way our lives operate, is all based on logic. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, logic means: a particular way of thinking, especially one that is reasonable and based on good. And I emphasize, “A particular way of thinking”! How can you dare think that you are allowing your mind room to grow to its full potential if you are conditioning it to be used in a particular way? Don’t get me wrong, logic works as a means to ensure alignment and uniformity, but isn’t it still limitations? How can a plant grow bigger than a room it is placed in? How can a fish swim further than the walls of an aquarium? How can an animal run beyond the gates of a zoo? This is what logic does to us, logic places us in a room, in an aquarium…in a zoo. Logic tames us and confines us to a world that strips away our potential to illogically create limitless possibilities and unimaginable realities.

One of the most (unconscious) discussions that tests our limitations is the question: “Did the chicken come before the egg or did the egg come before the chicken? The most likely answers are: (1) The chicken came before the egg, and (2) The egg came before the chicken. These are programmable answers, the only options and the only answers that you can possibly come to using logic. Logic forces us to accept that there are specific ways to life, and that every aspect of life must be explainable and understood in order for it to be. We no longer think of a 3rd possible answer or an option B, C, D, etc. I am not saying that logic doesn’t bring you to answers, all I’m saying is that logic is simply 1 answer and should never be our ONLY answer.

I believe that as universal beings we were meant to think creatively, applying different methods of thinking dependent on specific situations. Nowadays we’ve regressed into using creativity as our last means to think, solve and act. There’s no doubt that we were once on the path to evolving, but somewhere along the way we lost ourselves in our own growth. We’ve become greedy, hungry, eager, too much of all the bad things that inevitably caused us to regress, down a different path that we evolved on. This process of regression has been ongoing for 100s of years and so unconsciously that we do not realize. Why you ask? It’s simply because we’re now in an era where we’ve become too lazy to work and too superior to grow.  We’ve become dependent on technology which in turn makes us less reliant on ourselves and the need to fully use and push our minds. Sadly enough, to us, this is the direction of the future – technology -, blinded by convenience that we no longer wonder just how far our minds can go and how great we can be. Logic has already taught us that all these tangible advancements are results of are true growth and potential. It taught us that our path to creating a digital world on the foundation of tech is the more sustainable way of living which translates to our path of evolution. Logically this all makes sense of course because we were taught to think logically, but what if we can evolve in a different direction that involves the growth of our minds? How can we ever think of such a possibility if logics limits us to think there are no other possibilities?

This read is just to open your mind to the possibilities beyond the possibilities that you think you have. I’m simply trying to point you in a direction that you may not have discovered as yet. I want to remind you that just as your smartphone, your laptop or any tech product you may have, your mind is just as smart, just as advanced, but with so much more possibilities to grow (upgrade).

What I would like to recommend just to spark your mind is for you to conduct some research of various wonders of the world that were made before advanced technology existed – before machines, tools, or any form of proper building support. I want you to take a look at the detail of the designs, of the precision, of the accuracy, and of the logical impossibilities. For example, the pyramids and the entirety of its structure. There is no logical explanation as to how these pyramids could’ve possibly been built, but yet there they stand for thousands of years. My guess? Creativity! Not logic. Giving your mind the freedom to be allowed them to discover limitless ideas and possibilities that the brain can dare imagine. Just as animals adapt to their environment; iguanas living on coastal islands has now adapted to becoming marine iguanas which allows them now to hold their breath for over 30 minutes and swim to depths of 10 meters to find food; elephants are now growing without tusks to adapt to the conditions of being poached for so many years for their tusks; and many other animals adapt, we as universal beings also adapt the same way. We’ve adapted in our own way, we’ve adapted past creativity and limitless possibilities that our brains can tap into, to limited thinkers and realistic dreamers based on a structure. And even worse, now that we’re regressing (which some thinks is evolving) and becoming more dependent on technology, our brains are constantly shrinking, metaphorically speaking.

Just as our bodies, without exercise or training, it becomes weak, nimble and fades away quickly.

You are a brilliant being, but just imagine knowing, believing and exploring just how limitless than brilliance is. I hope that you caution yourself with becoming a logical thinker. Again, it’s okay to think logical, but let it be a way to think and not THE way to think. You are alive to question things, to explore ideas,  to dream, and to constantly evolve into whatever is next. Do not let logic trap you into being only the first stage of who you can be.

For what if there was no beginning and there is no end, but only everything that happens in between which do have beginnings and ends?

Become a thinker again, no matter how wild or crazy logic tells it sounds. Let your mind free, let your mind dream, let your mind discover, and let your mind grow!

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Aging Gracefully Into Retirement: A present glimpse of the future

Do you ever wonder what retirement feels like? Do you ever just imagine what it would feel like to know that what was once your life is now a multitude of experiences that only exist through stories and memories? I know that at this point it feels as though mentioning COVID in every title, in every sentence, and in every story, has become rather taboo. But what can we do if that is the reality of the reality that we are living in? What can we do if COVID is why you may be able to take a glimpse into what your life could inevitably become?

We are currently in 2021 where our current living circumstances has shifted so drastically, and the only way to be able to handle it is by clinging onto a perspective that allows you to accept it. To be honest, there’s no way to view the situation that makes it any more ‘okay’, but there are ways to look at it that gives you insight into new things and new experiences. It’s obvious at this point the extent to which most, if not all, of us are being affected by the current Pandemic which has plagued the world. Most of us are so overwhelmed by the fact that we are literally burdened by the psychological repercussions of this. The main reason being, none of what is happening is within our control nor is it something that we planned ahead for. So what we are living in is basically a Matrix – an accelerated lifestyle into forced retirement.

When you think about it, this Pandemic is a precognition of what our life can inevitably become – an unforeseen radical shift to retirement. COVID has created a real-life shift which in its own way has given us a glimpse into what our future can look like through self-experienced journey. Just take a second and try to remember what life was like for you one year ago, two years ago, or rather every year before 2020. For most reading this, I suppose we can look at those years as your prime years, and for some you can look at it as more seasoned years. What I’m basically trying to tell you is that most of you reading this is a far way off from retirement, so this experience is all new to you and quite an interesting teaser of what is to come (possibly)!

Little do we consciously realize is the fact that COVID is an aging virus. And when I say aging, I do not mean a virus that accelerates cellular aging, hormonal aging, accumulated damage to our bodies, nor metabolic aging. The aging I am speaking about is related to our aging lifestyles and our structured realities. Think about it, at this point of our lives most of are supposed to be living a pre-dictated lifestyle in which the system has designed for what ever phase in life we are in. Whether it be in school – high school or college -, work, traveling, exploring the world, or being parents, we were all supposed to be living a life laid out to us that fits whatever phase we are in. Instead we’re doing neither because COVID has created its own system and its own rules.

What COVID has done to most of us is fast-tracked us to a retirement-like lifestyle. A lifestyle where people are forced out of their jobs, where athletes are forced to give up their passion for sports, where societies are forced into isolation and even where students are forced out of a growth experience. Luckily for us, retirement never looked this great! We still don’t look the part, we still don’t feel the part, and we’re definitely not ready to act the part. Our minds are still sharp, our bodies are still strong, and our curiosity is still peaked, but that doesn’t make the feeling of retirement any less real. Just think about it, think about how we’re living, think about how it feels, and think about what it could be like to get to this stage. What we need to remember is that COVID is a temporary lifestyle we are forced into and have no control of. The life we live outside of COVID, from the start until retirement is our life and everything that we can control. I urge you to use this experience as a lesson, use this experience as motivation. Make your days count because it is inevitable that you will have to give up your passions someday. Enjoy your working days because it’s inevitable that will have to give up your role to someone else someday.  Keep learning as much as you can because it’s inevitable that at some point knowledge your mind will not be able to like before. Celebrate good times with friends, family and loved ones, for it’s inevitable that they won’t always be around. And when retirement comes around, plan it out how you see fit, how you can live with it.

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COVID – A Tragedy of Today Thinking On Tomorrow

It’s been a year since we’ve been living under such heavy stress. This stress, also a threat to our sanity and way of life, is single handedly contributed by the effects of this accelerated virus documented under the name of COVID-19. But let’s be clear, the question of the effects of this virus isn’t the same conversation as whether the virus is “real” or a conspiracy. For regardless of what it is, why it is, or who made it what it is, there are life threatening effects because of this questionable flu variant. There’s no denying that people are dying and that our way of life has been dramatically shifted, and these aspects alone are enough to make it all worrisome.

It’s scary imagining and reflecting on what life was just a year ago. It’s not scary because life was bad a year ago, it’s scary because of how fast this flu has become a dominant influence on how we live. About a year ago, early 2020, we were made aware of COVID-19 and it’s possible repercussions if it were to become a widespread virus. Of course these were all worst case scenario possibilities, nothing that we actually thought would happen. But even if we did believe there was a possibility, that wasn’t a possibility we chose to entertain. For who would want to imagine a life completely opposite of the life that were enjoying. We lived freely, expressively and intimately amongst each other. We enjoyed the flexibility of being able to travel both domestically and internationally. We openly ignored the idea of ‘space’, for a proper hello or goodbye was always complimented by a hug, shaking of hands, or 1,2, or 3 kisses. We enjoyed a life that presented us with endless possibilities of exercising both the mind and the body through recreational, competitive and professional activities. WE WERE LIVING!

Some may argue and say that although COVID-19 has impacted our social lives, social media was already on the verge of doing so. While I do understand that argument, I strongly believe that there’s a significant impact when a person is left with no choice. Although social media has indeed been affecting our social lives, it is so because these are choices that we as people have made (though conscious or unconscious). But COVID-19 has placed us in a situation that we have no control of, we have no say, we have no freedom nor any flexibility, and that’s where the frustrations begins.

Fast forward to a year later, here we are still living under threat. A threat to our lives, both physical and mental. Again, whether you believe in COVID-19 or not, there’s no denying that people are dying, people are suffering, and our way of life has been affected. But what’s really worrisome to me is that many of us focus on the tragedy of the now, and neglect those of tomorrow. There have been countless souls that lost their lives (physical) due to COVID-19 up until now. The tragedy of death has directed our focus solely on the physical and distracted us from also seeing the urgency of all the victims who have and are losing their lives through the mental aspect. For death isn’t the only way we as humans can lose our lives.

It confuses me to realize, that we live in a world that acknowledges the effects of caging away animals for any extended period, but does not acknowledge the effects on us as people. Yes, it is necessary for protocols to be in place, but how are we really saving people if we are only saving the physical and neglecting the mental?
Children are suffering, teens are suffering, parents, adults, professionals, we all are in our way. It’s tough to see that kids aren’t able to free themselves up to the world, engage and explore. Worrisome to know that teenagers, especially those going through puberty, aren’t able to find means of constructive outputs nor are they able to socialize or create experiences and bonds. Frustrating to accept that adults aren’t able to enjoy the pleasures of a relief or an output that allows them destress from a confined work day. Heartbreaking to know that people living abroad aren’t able to meet new people, aren’t able to socialize, are all alone with no answers, only more questions.

Families aren’t able to live traditionally, children aren’t able to touch their parents or grandparents, birthdays and holidays become lonely gatherings. Depression, frustration, loneliness, stress… tragedies such as funerals or emergencies are experienced through a text or over a camera. This is no regular life, this is far from a life…

We are living in a world that we do not recognize. But if we do not look out for each other, if we do not create measures or a support system that focuses on the mental well-being of our people, even if we get back the world we once knew, how many people will we not be able to recognize?

Call a friend, call your family, check in on them, make sure they are okay. Reach out to someone if you need someone to speak to. Stop telling yourself that you’re okay when you’re not. None of us are, and the only way that we can survive this is together!!!

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Kids Hungry For Love

I need to tell you about my day today. Today was such an amazing day, shared with amazing people, creating amazing cherished memories.

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So today a group of us, me along with other exchange students, went to a city in the Philippines called Antipolo City to assist the FEED Philippines Organization. “Their work focuses in organizing feeding and nourishment programs in public schools and the poorest of poor communities in the country”. The community that we went to today was a former dump site in the city of Antipolo. Despite the unsanitary conditions and excess amount of garbage being on the location, families who could not afford different living conditions made this site their home.

Before going to this community, we were briefed by some of the members of the organization on what to expect; like what they do, living conditions of the families and also the amount of children that they help. It was so emotionally overwhelming having to take in all of that reality. It’s just sad to think, to know, to hear that there are people…..CHILDREN living under such unfortunate conditions. You know, it’s one of those things in life that you know happens, you see it happens, but its just not something you can get used to. But as they continued to tell us about the work that they do, it also formed a good feeling because you also hear the positive impact that they are having on the different communities and with all of the children. We were really educated today on the life in different parts of the Philippines. It’s was really good being able to hear the different insights of the life in the country.

Just in case you were wondering, it wasn’t only story time. Each of us were occupied by helping prepare the meal that the kids were gonna eat for the day. Some focused on the rice, some on the chicken and some on the eggs. So while our ears were occupied listening, our hands were just as occupied. We were so many that the cooking process took little to no time, so it didn’t take long before it was time to meet the kids!

As we entered the area walking the streets, we were immediately approached by many of the kids and greeted by so many people. It felt as though they were so amazed and happy to see us in the community, not knowing WE were the amazed and excited ones to be able to be there and share our love with them. It was so comforting being immediately hit by such kind and positive energy. All of the kids were so open, so friendly and soooooooooooooooooo energetic hahahahaha. Before we got into the church yard of the community, we were already fully engaged with the kids, playing random games and making jokes with them.

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While in the streets we thought the kids that were already playing with us were all of the kids for the day, but as the gate for the church opened up we realized that we were wrong. There were so many more kids waiting, and joining in on the fun. There were kids everywhere; kids on both arms, on both legs, and your back, and yet more still wanted to jump on the kids that were already hanging on you hahahaha! Sadly, we had to tone the fun down a bit, just for a short bit. Just to formally start the day off we had an assembly where we prayed first, then the kids were informed why we were there, and then we each introduced ourselves to the kids so that they could be more familiar with who we are. The kids we so open to us, so happy to meet us, to hear us say hello, to say our names, just to have our company. Although they seem interested in us introducing ourselves, they seemed more interested in playing with us. So we made that introduction part short because who has time to talk all day when we can be outside playing right?! Hahahaha. During the remainder of the day we actively engaged with ALL of the kids. We set up different groups and played different games with them such as; duck duck goose, musical chairs, red light – green light – stop. These were just some of the games we played, and of course we joined in on the fun and participated in each game. It was so heartwarming to see the beautiful smiles on each of their faces. To have a day filled with laughter, joy and love, that is what I call a perfect day! But even perfect days come to an end, sadly that end came for us too quick. It took us so long to leave because we couldn’t stop saying goodbye and having fun with the kids, and they weren’t ready to let us go either. It was a bitter sweet ending of our day. The kids followed us as far as they could just smiling and waving while we did the same. Heavy goodbyes to kids who made our day and filled us with smiles!!!

These kids may be living a poor life according to the standards of society, but as living proof they prove that money isn’t the source of happiness. These are kids that don’t have the luxury of having guaranteed meals everyday but yet their stomachs isn’t all they’re looking to fill. These kids showed me today that LOVE is enough to keep you going, LOVE is meant to be shared. They are all hungry for love, and I am grateful that today we were able to fill not only their stomachs, but their hearts.

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Everywhere you are in the world there will be children who are living a less fortunate life than you. Helping them out, making them happy doesn’t require anything more than showing that you care. If you can, I urge you to connect with an organization or someone who can take you to see kids who are hungry for love. By sharing love you will be amazed by how fulfilling you yourself will feel too.

 

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The Systematic Life

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I thought I was born into a world,

But I realized I was born into a system,

A system that is controlled by the people born in the world that exist in THE system,

So I hope by now you understand the mechanics and you’re able to see the symptoms.

You see, it doesn’t function because of man’s acquired wisdom,

Money and power, those are the fuel and blocks laid out to maintain this kingdom.

 

You know what’s the most frustrating part of it all?

We built it, both you and I.

Blood, sweat and tears, it fuckin’ hurts to hear,

YES….BOTH YOU AND I!

 

Trapped with THAT purpose, be aware that I didn’t say “A PURPOSE”,

Because if I did, that would be suggestive that you were meant for something great and fulfilling.

 

What kind of purpose do you think you serve living in such depths?

Layers upon layers, so many obstacles created to burden us with commas of debt,

Commas ‘till death,

Loss of respect,

Lots of neglect,

No need to shout or scream, you’re just wasting your breath.

 

Or at least that’s what they want you to think…

They throw laws and policies they created at you hoping you’ll flinch…

Hoping you’ll blink,

And lose sight of what’s real while they force you to the brink…to the edge!

 

Slavery is over? Shut the fuck up!

If you think for a second that slavery ended, I’ll repeat, SHUT THE FUCK UP!

How conditioned are you to be completely oblivious to the mental constraints placed upon us?

Illusions placed in front of you and I so we can fight and fuss.

Trust me, this isn’t lust,

As strong as the system’s desire is to FUCK……US.

 

Close your eyes and open your mind,

We’re enslaved to our own kind.

Enslaved to what we eat, where we sleep, what we wear, what we hear….

We’re enslaved by life.

Not the life that we deserve or desire,

But the life that the system requires….of us

To keep functioning……

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Big City Rush

Before you begin the process of taking in the words your eyes will read, I want you to focus your mind letting the words take you on a journey…..for some, maybe even a memory of a regular experience.

I do get that in “the city life” time is very crucial and most of your life revolves around that, BUT that’s really no excuse why you can’t slow down every so often.

There’s a combination of words that my ears have sadly gotten used to NOT hearing…….

EXCUSE ME!

Yes, that’s not something I hear quite often, and just in case you want to play smart or cute, you can add the words “PARDON and SORRY” to that list.

Those words are words that I don’t hear quite often, as a matter of fact, those are words that I almost NEVER hear. All I hear is….actually, I don’t hear anything. But despite the absence of words, I do feel that someone wants to pass. I feel it with bumps & pushes, and feel it when someone squeezes or forces themselves to pass by me or between me and someone else.

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Now, I know there may be some of you thinking, “oh you must be standing in the way”. So let me just clarify the reality for you and tell you this, “as long as you’re standing, you’re always in the way, even when you’re not”.

BIG CITY LIFE is what they call it.

I find myself living in it for quite some time now, but for some reason I can’t adapt, I maybe even REFUSE to adapt to that extent where I lose the manners my mother spent years of TIME instilling it in me.

You know what, let’s use an example: Just think of a train pulling up to the platform and doors open up, you’d think logical and most efficient, not forgetting mannered way to go about the transfer is for those in the train to be allowed to step out first right? In the real world that is the case (or maybe in the fantasy world), but in this city life, clearly everyone seems to act like chickens without heads. There seems to be a lack of logic in this city life I’m sensing, maybe the lack of time to process logic is too short……? When the train pulls up and doors open, all a person is trying to do it get out of the train, so why not just wait on the side so someone can exit? YES, just as they want to get off you want to get on, but where will you go if there is no space on the train? But noooooooo, it seems as though that’s asking for too much. As the train pulls up it’s as though everyone goes into some form of predator-mode. The predators are hungry and the train is finally bringing food and water after weeks of starvation. NO! That’s not the case, so why can’t people take a few seconds of their time and act civilized? Trains, metros, trams, busses, all the same. You know what’s even more scary, the uncivilized rush and lack of manners isn’t only limited to public transport? Sorry if I made it seem as though that is the only time people express their lack of manners. I mean, where do I even CONTINUE to burn this “city life”?

Take a walk with me off of the public transport. Let’s take a tour in the city with your imagination.  Walking streets is another mess, it’s another uncivilized environment. People seem to have absolutely no consideration whatsoever, it’s a free-for-all. Sometimes it feels as though I’m in a car tumbling down a cliff, I’m being maneuvered beyond my will, left, right, forward, all because people don’t want to say the words “EXCUSE ME”.

But you know, apart from that all, the thing that bothers me most of the BIG CITY LIFE is people’s ability to mind their own business when they shouldn’t! Hahaha, I’m sure you’re thinking if minding your own business isn’t supposed to be a good thing. Well, no, not in cases when your help is needed. Yes assholes, quite often your help can be quite helpful. How about times when you’re comfortably in a seat and an elderly person comes in and the public transport is full, just maybe it may be helpful to offer the seat! What about when a mother is struggling with her baby and stroller to get it in or out of public transport, maybe it would be helpful to help! What about when someone falls, whether  because the floor is iced over, falling off of a bicycle or just loses their stability. In many cases, just maybe it would be helpful to help!

Just maybe if people weren’t always in such a rush to go nowhere they would have a spare minute just to be helpful, just to be mannered! 

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