social – Esoteric

Dear siblings, I’m not sorry to inform you that you’re all experiments.

Young men! Young, caring, loving men. Your life has more meaning than you may know, your role has more effect than you may think, your being has more pressure than you should have, nevertheless, here you are. Generalizing is a very tricky and sensitive way to go about judging who someone is, or in other cases, could be. BUT young men, the evolved status of your brother-ship has been tarnished by many before us, and we must begin to scrub away that stain. You see, being a brother is the first step to becoming a father. There’s a first for both, but there’s only 1 result, and that is to be GREAT at it.

I’ve been thinking on my role as an older brother for some time now. What I’ve done for my siblings, what I do for them, and also what I will eventually (be able to) do for them. I’m not in any way trying to create a formula or a fixed guideline, I’m simply trying to bring about awareness. My focus is to help you discover just how important you are, and just how important the process is for your siblings and of course yourself.

Before we continue I just want to make one thing clear. When I use the term “brother”, I’m using it as relation by bond and not only by biology. There is no way to run away from your responsibilities, just as there is no way to run away from your influence.

Being an older brother you will find yourself being quite involved in the lives of your younger siblings. Your role ranges from motivating, emotionally supporting, guiding, you’ll sometimes find yourself being a personal driver and at other times, a bank (of course without the payback part), and believe me when I tell you, the list goes on. It’s all an experience, it’s all an experiment. There’s no one way to be a big brother, there’s no one way to be a parent, but this experience is a start to figure out what works for you.

So dear young men,

YES, there is be a lot of pressure and there is a lot of responsibility. Someone will always be looking up to you, someone will always be watching you and you will always guide someone, just know that it’s all practice for raising your own (eventually).

It can be easy, but it will be hard. As long as you try, as long as you transform yourself into the right example, as long as you embrace your responsibility, you will make it work. The trick is treating your siblings how you would want to be treated, treating your siblings how you will treat your child(ren), treating your siblings exactly how you want your child (who will become a sibling) to treat their siblings. The first step starts with you, create a trend that inspires positivity!!

And dear siblings,

Just know that being an experiment doesn’t associate itself with negativity. You should be proud to have an older sibling that’s trying to perfect kindness and positive influence on you. Embrace the love and let the positive influence you.

Best wishes,

A brother trying to be a GREAT brother, a brother aspiring to some day be a GREAT father, a brother trying to lead brothers to be BETTER brothers.

How plugged in are you? How unplugged are you really?

It’s crazy how you’d think that being in this technological age we’d all be more connected. If you look at it from a technical perspective, we are. You may not be able to see it, but you’re making use of it. Transmissions are being transferred constantly – invisible communication waves beaming from every electronic device that we own or that’s around us. The idea of this convenience is brilliant, the hopes of the good it does is so reassuring, but that’s the optimism that existed before the results were evident.

I am one of those modern day technological junkies that’s plugged into this system, the system that’s pretty much fucking our ability to socialize. The ability to be connected to friends, family, strangers, the world, information, entertainment, and everything else that the world has to offer is refreshing. I often feel as though I can never miss out on my life or the life of others. It’s all available by the swiping or clicking of my fingers tips. All this accessibility is supposed to connect us more, make us more social….afterall, isn’t that the reason these connected platforms are called ‘social media’?

Connected, connection……… such tricky word, so ironic. What or who are you really connected to? The people you speak to, or the devices you use for their platforms? It’s crazy how connected we are, the access given to us to increase our sociability, but yet connection leans in favor of our devices instead of people. Believe me or not, that’s how it is.. that’s how it works.

Take a look at this picture, notice the glowing strip on the floor? It’s not a reflection of a nearby light, it’s a stop light. This picture was taken in a city called Bodegraven in the Netherlands. People have become so connected to the online world that they become disconnected from reality. How social is that right? How connected are you to the real world at this point? People have become so consumed by the social devices that they have become unsocial in life. How bizarre is it that we’ve come to this point that people’s heads are always DOWN in their phones that extreme measures need to be taken as such ensure safety?……un-fucking-social is what is is!

What do you get out of this picture? I want you to be as real and honest to yourself as possible. Doesn’t this look familiar? Doesn’t this reflect you at times? It sure as hell does with me. This picture sadly enough depicts modern day society. It shows exactly how plugged in we are and how unplugged we are from life. All of these persons in this picture are most likely using some form of SOCIAL media…..imagine that, they’re using social platforms but their socializing skills are just lessening. This is in no way a good sight, no way a good future, no way a life to be happy about.

ABORT! ABORT!! ABORTTTTTTTT!!! Social media isn’t what you think, it doesn’t help you become more social per se. If you’re into the whole posting your life happening publicly then sure, shoot. Nothing beats a good old fashion face to face conversation, one that doesn’t include being disturbed by your devices. Unplug yourself from the network and plug yourself back into reality. That could be you in the picture, and trust me….if you’re okay with that then you’re more fucked up than I thought.

My Words